“We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master.”
—Ernest Hemingway
Embarking on the intricate journey of self-discovery becomes a profound exploration into the multifaceted realm of personality. The interplay of enduring cognitive patterns, emotional responses, and behavioral inclinations intricately shapes our perception of the world. Whether you are someone who is rigid and prefers perfection, or just goes with the flow, in its broadest sense, it is through our personality that we perceive the world, which helps mold our self-concept. It is our personality that helps determine how we embrace other people and our environment.
While every individual possesses a unique personality, within the labyrinth of traits, common categories and trends become apparent. Recognizing and comprehending these nuanced intricacies can serve as a cornerstone for a profound self-knowledge, self-awareness, and self-control. Whether one grapples with unyielding rigidity or appears to navigate life’s currents with ease, understanding the spectrum of our personalities can have a profound influence on our self-awareness and self-control, and the success or failure we produce in life.
However, the challenge lies in our often limited comprehension, not only of others but, intriguingly, of ourselves as well. Despite societal norms subtly encouraging conformity, even the most adept individuals find themselves stumbling into awkward moments. While some individuals adeptly try to just blend in, while concealing the internal struggles to do so, others attempt to stand out in a crowd, and still others leave a trail of deceit and blame in their wake as they climb the social and corporate ladders.
The subtleties within these dynamics underscore the intricate dance between self-knowledge, self-awareness, self-control, and the societal expectations we must all deal with. The dichotomy of those adept at conformity and those harboring internal turmoil highlights the nuanced nature of personality, with its capacity to shape external self-expression while concealing internal struggles below the surface. In these situations, our self-awareness and self-control form a delicate relationship between the inherent traits of our personality and the societal expectations guiding our actions. Moreover, our self-perception remains intricately intertwined with the reactions and observations of those around us. This interdependence introduces an added layer of complexity, as the reactions of others may not always align with our internal experiences, and the reactions of others may carry their own dysfunctional content.
As people set out on the journey to unravel the complexities of their personalities, they realize this pursuit may result in the long-term changes that have eluded them in the past. Some of our ingrained traits may be resistant to change and may jeopardize our interpersonal relationships, professional or academic opportunities, etc., and make the overall landscape of personal development more difficult. Therefore, there is a need for an appropriate personality audit, a thorough and deep look at the basic personality that exists in all of us. The book “WHY YOU DO THAT,” by John B. Evans, PhD, can help!
“Why You Do That” serves as an exploration of basic personality styles and disorders that shape our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It unveils the lenses and filters through which we experience the world, urging readers to confront their own biases and denial. This book points out the importance of self-awareness and self-control in creating and maintaining the stability of your personality simply because no one else can do it for you. Even a competent therapist cannot get inside your head 24 hours a day. It empowers you to take responsibility for your present and future, offering insights that lay the foundation for a more comprehensive self-awareness and the inevitable self-control that necessarily accompanies and increase in self-awareness. “Why You Do That” provides a roadmap to self-discovery, encouraging readers to understand their fundamental personality traits. This book will become the cornerstone in your journey toward creating the person you want to be.
Since each of us contributes our own part to the greater society, it is essential that each of us learn to recognize and understand our basic self. Increasing our self-knowledge and self-awareness inevitably gives us a greater self-control, enabling us to CHOOSE who we will be in life. With conscious choices based on an accurate self-awareness, we can now create the life we desire to live.